Mornings set the tone for the entire day. As parents homeschooling struggling learners, it’s easy to feel the pressure of academics, chores, and schedules as soon as everyone’s eyes are open. But when we begin the day with correction—reminders, instructions, and “hurry ups”—our kids often start on the defensive.
There’s a better way: start with connection.
When your child begins the day feeling loved and secure, they’re far more likely to approach learning and responsibilities with a calm, open heart. A simple, consistent morning rhythm can make all the difference.
Why Connection First Works
- Calms anxiety: A gentle start lowers stress and helps kids regulate their emotions.
- Builds trust: Prioritizing connection shows your kids they matter more than the to-do list.
- Creates momentum: When kids feel seen and loved, they’re more cooperative and motivated.
A Morning Time Story
As you can imagine, homeschooling 8 children (and 7 with dyslexia) was no easy task. Honestly, I don’t know how I did it sometimes!
One thing that was particularly difficult homeschooling such a large family was feeling like I was constantly being pulled from one kid to the other. I often desired to connect with one child but was busy with another. My kids spent a lot of time playing in the backyard growing up! I used to worry about that but now, looking back, I can see that that was the best thing they could have been doing as young children.
Anyway, when I learned about the idea of connecting in the morning as a family to just enjoy each other’s company instead of rushing into the school day, something resonated with me.
Even though I had more to do than I had time during the day, and getting an early start with academics made more logical sense, I gave morning time a try. It quickly became my favorite time of the day.
From babies to teenagers, that time of connecting as a family made a huge difference in how the rest of the day went and also a benefitted all of our family relationships.
A Simple 3-Step Morning Rhythm
Try these three steps to ease into your homeschool mornings:
- Connect – Whether it’s a snuggle on the couch with a younger child or sharing coffee or tea and conversation with your teenager, physical closeness and connection helps release feel-good hormones and signals safety.
- Learn together – Starting the day with a read aloud, spiritual practice like Bible study, or some other group activity starts the day with an enjoyable focus.
- Talk about the day – Briefly outline what’s ahead. Kids with dyslexia and ADHD especially benefit from knowing the plan and having clear expectations.
This routine doesn’t need to be long—even 15 minutes can build an atmosphere calm and connection in your home.
Your Challenge
For the next 3 days, try starting your homeschool mornings with this same 3-step rhythm: connect, learn together, and talk about the day. See how it changes the tone for you and your kids.
You may be surprised by how much lighter and more connected your mornings feel when you start with love instead of correction.
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That’s sooo true. Thank you for the reminder. One morning I made a point of sitting and listening to my son when he was telling me a story. He was so used to me running around while he talked that it took him by surprise! It’s like trust was built and it calmed him down. He was more ready than usual to do math after that!